83. Releasing Limiting Beliefs: How Online Service Providers Can Uncover Their True Business Path with Tara Wiskow

In this episode of Soulpreneur Scaling Stories, I sit down with Tara Wiskow, an intuitive healer and life reinvention expert who transitioned from weight loss coaching to her true calling after experiencing a profound personal loss. Tara shares her powerful journey of transformation and the pivotal moment when she decided to finally answer the calling that had been knocking at her door for years.

During our conversation, Tara reveals why we often choose business paths based on external validation rather than our internal wisdom. We explore the mindset shifts necessary to build a business aligned with your true self and how to recognize when you're building someone else's version of your business. Tara offers practical techniques for identifying and releasing the limiting beliefs that keep service providers stuck at income plateaus despite working longer hours.

If you're an online service provider who feels something might be missing in your business or you're struggling with offers that don't feel fully aligned, this episode provides actionable strategies for tapping into your intuition and creating a business that feels genuinely yours.

Key Points Covered:

✨ How to recognize when external validation is driving your business decisions

✨ The powerful "observe and reframe" method for overcoming limiting beliefs

✨ Why awareness is the first step to breaking through business plateaus

✨ Practical steps for accessing your intuition to create aligned offers

✨ The connection between personal identity and sustainable business growth

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[00:00:00] Andrea Elibero: Andrea here, your host and passionate business coach and scaling strategist for soulful service providers and coaches. Welcome to another episode of Solepreneur Scaling Stories. Have you ever wanted to look behind the curtain of your fellow entrepreneur's business to see what actually went into scaling it?

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[00:01:10] Hello everybody. Welcome to Soulpreneur Scaling Stories. I'm really excited to have Tara Wisco with us today, who is an intuitive healer and life reinvention expert and interestingly, Tara was, I was her VA back in like 2019.

[00:01:26] So this is also a reunion that you guys get to be a part of. So hello Tara, welcome.

[00:01:32] Tara Wiskow: Hello, miss Andrea. Thank you so much for having me today. I'm excited to

[00:01:36] get to be back in your space and getting to see your face after this many years. So

[00:01:41] Andrea Elibero: Yes. Yes. Me too. Okay. So it was so funny because when you had reached out and you're like, Oh, you have a podcast, like that would be really fun. And at the time when we were working together, you were a weight loss coach. And so I was so confused because I was like, I don't know how this is relevant. But then you shared what you [00:02:00] actually do today.

[00:02:01] So I would love if you can share a little bit of your story. So that way everybody can get to know you.

[00:02:06] Tara Wiskow: Sure. Absolutely. So, yes, when, when I knew Andrea, I was a weight loss coach. That was back in 2019. I was

[00:02:14] not just starting the journey as a weight loss coach. I'd been in the industry for a while, but I was really getting my roots planted and, and, and wanting to grow and scale, and at that level of needing that va.

[00:02:27] And I stayed in that, that journey, that industry of weight loss until 2023 in I, I shouldn't say that. I have to back up. I'm still in the weight loss industry. I still help women to lose weight. I will forever be in that space because it's my passion after losing 220 pounds naturally. So for me,

[00:02:49] it's hugely important. However, in 2023, I started to feel.

[00:02:55] This need to shift myself. I've always felt that something's [00:03:00] missing. I am, something's missing within my life. I'm not who I'm supposed to be. Why do I feel like I'm living the wrong life? These were constant conversations that I was having with myself or looking for mentorship around. And in 2023 I started again to feel this need to be begin to step away from being a sole coach in the weight loss space.

[00:03:24] felt this vibration of opening up to a new calling and I fully stepped into it in 2024, October, 2024,

[00:03:34] I opened intuitively and became an intuitive energy intuitive healer

[00:03:40] as well as a life reinvention expert.

[00:03:42] And so that's where I am today. It, you know, the other part of the story is losing my sister to cancer in 2023

[00:03:51] was my. Was was the pinnacle moment that opened me up fully.

[00:03:58] remember sitting out [00:04:00] on our, out outside here on the swing by our pond and thinking, you know, Tricia doesn't get to live

[00:04:09] Andrea Elibero: Hmm.

[00:04:09] Tara Wiskow: her life anymore. Her life is done at 39 years old. Her expiration date has arrived. I'm still here, and how much longer am I going to ask myself? What's missing? Why do I feel like I'm not living the right life? And it was that moment that I made that decision, I'm finally going to shift and I'm

[00:04:33] Andrea Elibero: Hmm.

[00:04:34] Tara Wiskow: allow myself to step into what's been knocking at my door for a very, very long time.

[00:04:40] And so here I am today

[00:04:43] and with you.

[00:04:45] Andrea Elibero: Yeah. And so that's one. I'm so sorry for your loss. And two, what a shift and almost like a shift into your true self is what it sounds like.

[00:04:57] Tara Wiskow: A hundred percent. Truly, [00:05:00] Andrea, I have, I have avoided opening this door for

[00:05:04] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:05:05] Tara Wiskow: and what I fully didn't understand is that it was easy for me to say yes to being a weight loss coach. And the reason is, and many of your listeners will resonate with this, women were coming to me saying. How did you lose the weight? What did you do? Can you teach me? Can you show me how? Like, guide me, I'll pay you. Like they were pretty much on my doorstep saying, here's the money. Just guide me. Right?

[00:05:33] Andrea Elibero: yeah.

[00:05:34] Tara Wiskow: it was very easy to say yes to that. It built my confidence. It gave me all the external validation that I needed to know that I was a chosen one, that this was a path for me.

[00:05:45] So it wasn't necessarily the path that I chose, even though I love it.

[00:05:50] path of being an intuitive energy healer and opening up in this space was one that I knew [00:06:00] was what was on my heart and is natural for me and so easy. But I was scared to because nobody was standing there saying, Hey, I pick you.

[00:06:09] Andrea Elibero: Okay.

[00:06:09] Tara Wiskow: to pick me. And that's a

[00:06:11] Andrea Elibero: Ooh.

[00:06:12] Tara Wiskow: piece.

[00:06:12] Andrea Elibero: That is a huge mindset piece and I want to relate this to online service providers because

[00:06:18] I know when I talk to people and say, okay, you know, what do you do? What is your business? And a lot of times. The business or the offers that they have are because people are asking them for it,

[00:06:31] Tara Wiskow: Oh.

[00:06:31] Andrea Elibero: because like, oh, you're good at this.

[00:06:32] Like, yes. Oh, can you do this? And then, okay, sure, I'll do that. And it's like the business is leading them. And I've had that happen to me as well.

[00:06:40] especially at the beginning I had The VA and then I had all of these clients and then I created an agency, but why did I do that?

[00:06:47] Because people were coming to me. I was getting more clients,

[00:06:50] Tara Wiskow: Yeah.

[00:06:51] Andrea Elibero: it wasn't until after I was doing that I was like, why, why am I doing this? It's not necessarily the path I wanted and Interestingly, and I don't know if you have found this but like now this is [00:07:00] my path. I'm like, oh, this is my thing This is like my Dharma, my calling, like amazing.

[00:07:04] And it's taken, like at the beginning of starting it, it took longer to ramp up than what I was doing before.

[00:07:11] And so I felt like I almost had to,

[00:07:14] I had to build up that resiliency and the belief in myself to be like, no, this is my thing and I know it's going to happen. I know it's going to work. So I don't know if there's anything that you can speak to about that.

[00:07:24] Tara Wiskow: Yes.

[00:07:25] Andrea Elibero: because I feel like that's a piece that discourages people, you know, they get, it's scary, right, to step into the thing that you like, have in the back of your mind that you truly know what you want to do. Yeah,

[00:07:38] Tara Wiskow: what you know you're called to do and it is in you and it scares you, it's a slower go of building it. I think. That discourages us because it's a slower go because we're very much an instant gratification society. We're we are, are past the days of the slow cookers.

[00:07:59] [00:08:00] We're microwave all day long.

[00:08:02] Andrea Elibero: yeah.

[00:08:02] Tara Wiskow: So we take it that if it's slower

[00:08:05] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:08:08] Tara Wiskow: one thing that has been difficult until now for me to grasp is the concept that you always want to go deeper in your calling rather than wider, right? They always talk about instead of going wider and getting this wide, stay really narrow in your focus and then go deeper, deeper, deeper, deeper.

[00:08:28] Right?

[00:08:29] When, like you said, when we're constantly looking to others of what should we offer, what's our offering, that's so much taking that into a wider breadth of offerings instead of staying very, very true to your calling and. Some days feeling like you're bored with talking about the same thing over and over and over because you do, but that's your calling and that really resonates with the, the people that need to hear what you have to say. And I think what else that I would share with that is I've always [00:09:00] been put the carriage before the horse in all that I've done.

[00:09:05] Meaning out, doing the market research, getting all these ideas of what everybody needs, and everybody else telling me who I should be, who I should show up for the purpose of them.

[00:09:17] Andrea Elibero: Yes.

[00:09:18] Tara Wiskow: the external validation, it's the

[00:09:20] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:09:20] Tara Wiskow: It's knowing that if I am, I am who everybody needs me to be, then I've made it, then I'm at home base.

[00:09:29] However, in this journey. Which has been harder, but very, very refreshing and so much more enjoy, enjoyable, and I think peaceful comes to mind

[00:09:40] Andrea Elibero: Hmm.

[00:09:41] Tara Wiskow: I am becoming and allowing that to happen before I'm going out and asking everybody else, what do you need to hear from me? I am getting true and open and honest with myself and allowing myself to become and sane. If the wheels on [00:10:00] this carriage don't move right now, that's okay, because I know I'm becoming, and then everything's gonna start coming. It's gonna start coming to me. The women that need my services will come to me because I've become who I need to be to show up authentically in the space, and that's allowing me to really have success at a much easier level than I have ever experienced before.

[00:10:24] Andrea Elibero: It gave me chills because, because I know what you're saying, because I understand this, right? Because that's what, for the past few months, that's what I've been working on, is the, I am this coach, right? Like, whatever I am now, it doesn't matter because, or like, whatever my external reality is reflecting to me, it doesn't matter because I know who I am.

[00:10:45] Right? And like I know, like, and, but that's something I've been working on. So for people listening who are like, okay, but what do you mean about becoming, or like what is

[00:10:54] concretely, what can I do? And maybe doing is not the right word, but [00:11:00] what can I, right, like what are, one is how do you know? How do you know who you are and what you're meant to do, especially in terms of business without the external validation?

[00:11:12] Mm

[00:11:14] Tara Wiskow: for me. I love this question and I think do is a good word. would even shift it to say taking aligned action. I love

[00:11:24] Andrea Elibero: Mm

[00:11:25] Tara Wiskow: I. Aligned action means that the action feels good to you. Like when you sit down, it's a, it's a hell yes. All day long. You know, this feels good to you. You don't have to.

[00:11:35] And go to chat GPT to give you the words now. I love chat, GPT. What I've finally found that I'm able to do, and this will, this is alluding to your question, is I can go to chat GPT now and say, this is who I am. This is what I do, this is what I'm creating. These are the words that I have around it.

[00:11:56] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:11:57] Tara Wiskow: but help me to sound a little bit more [00:12:00] professional or

[00:12:00] Andrea Elibero: Yeah. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Mm

[00:12:04] Tara Wiskow: versus before I would go and I would ask chat, GPT. What would somebody that is y, z, say, I had no idea because I didn't know who I was. So in the aligned action, it's really sitting down and, and asking yourself.

[00:12:21] What, first of all, what's your journey? What's your story? What, what do people ask you

[00:12:27] to help them with? And you know that that feels really, really good to you.

[00:12:32] You know that when you sit with it, you're like, oh yes, all day long. This is my passion, this is my love,

[00:12:39] I could talk about this. Every day, all day long. Right. I think that's a big piece of, of becoming, is that that's the first step.

[00:12:49] The second step is getting raw and real with yourself and allowing yourself to sit down and do journaling around what you want in your life, who you are, [00:13:00] who you're becoming. I'm not a big

[00:13:04] journaler. Around the woe is me. This was my day from eight o'clock this morning until eight o'clock tonight. This was my life experience. That's not my journaling. Some people like that. I find that it's, it's very negative for me. It makes

[00:13:19] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:13:21] Tara Wiskow: versus if I sit down and I ask myself a question and say, what's important to me to bring into my business today? Just allow the thoughts to flow, not look to anybody else, not go to any resource and look at what anybody else is doing. Just let your thoughts come forward and know that that's your higher self, that's your future self guiding you. That's a big part of becoming as well. I answering your question or am I kind of all over the place?

[00:13:50] 'cause I'm good at that.

[00:13:52] Andrea Elibero: No, I think that, so, so I will summarize what I'm taking from it, and you tell me if I'm on track, is that [00:14:00] one is to be quiet and listen to yourself.

[00:14:03] Tara Wiskow: yeah,

[00:14:04] Andrea Elibero: Right? And just step away from everybody else and all the outside noise. And, because when you're journaling, that's what's happening, right? You are actually digging deeper and listening to yourself.

[00:14:14] So getting quiet,

[00:14:15] giving yourself some space,

[00:14:16] and figuring that out. And two is, it sounds like

[00:14:19] what you're saying, and I agree with all of these things, right? These are like, I'm like, yes, yes, yes, check, check. Is the

[00:14:26] Um, doing the analysis, it's almost like a little like, okay, like analysis and paying attention.

[00:14:32] How do I feel when I do these things? What do I actually love to do?

[00:14:36] And not just this, what am I supposed to be doing? What are all these other people doing that are successful? And let me copy them because they're successful, you know? And having the, and then having the, so getting the clarity and taking the steps to do that, right?

[00:14:50] Like one step after another to then make that happen.

[00:14:55] Tara Wiskow: Yeah.

[00:14:55] Andrea Elibero: did I do? Did I summarize okay?

[00:14:57] Tara Wiskow: did fantastic. You passed

[00:14:59] Andrea Elibero: Amazing.

[00:14:59] Tara Wiskow: [00:15:00] Good job.

[00:15:00] Andrea Elibero: Amazing!

[00:15:02] Tara Wiskow: Yes. And I, and what's coming to me too is just trusting yourself to know, trusting

[00:15:08] Andrea Elibero: Mmm. Mm hmm.

[00:15:11] Tara Wiskow: don't give up on it. If you know in your heart of hearts that it is something that you know you need,

[00:15:17] that it's, it's an information that's coming to you, like messages that you're receiving on a daily basis of.

[00:15:24] I need to do this. I use the rule of three. This is an intuition thing that everybody can use. 'cause everybody has intuition. Not everybody's meant to be an intuitive that receives downloads from guides and spirit and divine like I do.

[00:15:36] With all of us in intuition, if you hear something three times, that is absolutely the rule of three saying, this is something you need to look deeper into.

[00:15:48] again, going back to that journaling of sitting down and and writing, I've heard three times that I need to do a program on. Help me to understand better what [00:16:00] this program would look like. And again, just going deep with your own thoughts, allowing that to come forward. A good practice getting into that is a two, one breath.

[00:16:10] It's like sitting down, relaxing into it, and then taking a two, one breath is just two very quick breaths, and then one very long exhale. So it looks like this. Going and doing that two to three times. And then approaching that journaling, you've connected fully with yourself and it's allowing you to be present with yourself and not feeling the need to jump into somebody else's space to get the guidance.

[00:16:39] Andrea Elibero: And you know what came up for me when you were saying that is to do it without judgment and to let yourself just be free.

[00:16:45] Tara Wiskow: Yeah.

[00:16:46] Andrea Elibero: I can imagine somebody doing this exercise and then something comes up and maybe they stop themselves because they're like, I can't do that, that's silly, or that's too much, or who am I?

[00:16:53] You know, like all of these Limiting beliefs popping up when this happens.

[00:16:59] Tara Wiskow: Oh my [00:17:00] gosh.

[00:17:00] Andrea Elibero: she's all excited. She's like,

[00:17:03] Tara Wiskow: I'm like, oh yes. Those are limiting beliefs. Oh my gosh. Yes, yes, yes. You are. So right. Can I speak to that or were you gonna, okay.

[00:17:11] Andrea Elibero: no, be my guest. Go ahead.

[00:17:13] Tara Wiskow: Yeah, something that I've learned that I did not know before. Opening up intuitively and understanding how much energy we take on a lot of us that are business owners, especially women, but this does not exclude men as well,

[00:17:29] because there are a lot of men that are empaths as well. As an empath, we take on energy that does not belong to us. We are open vessels of energy, I mean, we're honestly like little bubbles of energy bouncing around on this earth. And so if we look at it as aura spaces, which is our aura that goes around, all of us we're bumping, our auras are bumping with other individuals, and we can take on energy that does not belong to us.

[00:17:57] And that's in the form of discarnate [00:18:00] energy, which is like a. A past life energy is like the best way that I can say it, or

[00:18:05] Andrea Elibero: Hmm.

[00:18:06] Tara Wiskow: that's been in this lifetime that has passed away but is not ready to to cross over.

[00:18:12] most times they've been struggling with addiction or or trauma experiences, and they wanna live out their mission yet. They'll take up space in somebody else's energy. And so you'll take on energy in your, in your mind, in your, we talk about mind, body, spirit, right? So in your mind

[00:18:32] in that, that aura space, they'll take up energy there. Your own energy of discarnate energy. Imprints, which can be passed down from past lives generationally, things that have happened in your lifetime now, things that people have said to you. All sorts of just crazy ways that imprints can take place. And then foreign energy, which can be medications, fluoride, radiation, so forth like that. we've got this energy, you start living behind [00:19:00] false identities. And these false identities are packed with limiting beliefs,

[00:19:04] things that you believe to be true for you.

[00:19:07] And it's really wild when I work with my women is they'll say, well, I'm not smart enough. That's a limiting

[00:19:14] Andrea Elibero: Mm-hmm

[00:19:14] Tara Wiskow: long. I'll say, is that a hundred percent true? I say, well, no, I. I believe it's true, like they believe it's true for them because they have made the decision at some point very, very early that this is true.

[00:19:31] And what now, as an NLP practitioner neurolinguistic programming practitioner, I've done this timeline therapy work for just about three years. We've uncovered or I've uncovered in this work with the women that I work with, that this can come from a past life. This can be a belief that you bring with you if you believe in past lives.

[00:19:51] It can pass down generationally, so it can come from somebody in a prior generation that has passed down through generations. [00:20:00] It can also come from your birth while you're in the womb, during your birth, or in your imprinting phase of zero to seven years old. So what I'm saying is. Unconsciously, which is 95% of your makeup every single day. have these limiting beliefs, millions of them that are circulate, circulating through your unconscious mind, and they're they are. Why you think? Who am I to think that I can do this? I'm not smart enough for this. I'm not ready for this. I always fail. Or success. This is a big one that we don't realize as business owners, success always comes with struggle, or success comes with sacrifices, or success comes with pain.

[00:20:45] And when these limiting beliefs circle and, and they come forward, all of a sudden what we were just really, really excited about. taking a step back and saying, we'll wait. I think I better not start this yet. I'm not [00:21:00] ready for this. And that's our unconscious mind that's protecting us because it's coming forward and saying, Andrea, remember, remember what happened?

[00:21:08] All those other times where you thought you were smart enough and all of a sudden, bam, you move forward and pain happened. Don't do it. Don't do it. 'cause pain's coming. So that's these limiting beliefs and why so often. We lose faith and trust and belief in ourselves and what we are so, so excited about and, and so passionate to create. We find we just stay in the hamster wheel for years, whatever it might be for each individual person.

[00:21:40] Andrea Elibero: Yeah, and the time when it comes up, or when they pop up the most, is when you're right on the edge of doing that new thing. You're going to this next level, and then you'll see that they multiply, it's like they multiply times a thousand, and,

[00:21:52] Tara Wiskow: Yeah.

[00:21:54] Andrea Elibero: you're on the edge of being a new you. You're evolving.

[00:21:57] And so, or it's like your subconscious trying to keep you [00:22:00] safe and small and familiar, and because we don't know what's What's going to happen on the other side, right? So yeah, and, and I see it all the time with my clients as well, that, that this is what happens, right? It's like, okay, I'm really excited.

[00:22:13] I'm going to do this thing. And then the next day I get Slack messages like, wait, hold on, like, can I really do this? Like, okay, hold on, let's, let's, let's examine this. So I would love to, for you to share. So when you're working with people, okay, now we know why these, like why this happens. What do you do about it?

[00:22:32] How do we move through them?

[00:22:34] Tara Wiskow: Yeah, we actually release it. So the very first thing is we have to know what is the energetic charge in NLP? It's called suds. It's really the suds system of knowing zero to 10. What's, what's the level of discomfort that this belief brings to you? I love to call it the energetic charge.

[00:22:54] I, it just resonates with me versus gimme the suds on this. So for [00:23:00] me

[00:23:00] Andrea Elibero: Okay, wait, can I interrupt one second? Because, so, so I come from a clinical psychology background, and I love the fact that in all of these different, I don't know what the word is, areas of study, that it's all very similar things with different names. You know, so like, So like a thought record and so CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, where you do a lot of thought like examining your thoughts and rebalancing of thoughts.

[00:23:24] And the first thing you do is, okay, what's the emotion you're feeling and on what, you know, so like identifying that. So I love the fact that you have like an NLP and in what you're doing, like it's the same thing, the same process, but just like packaged in a way that, that, you know,

[00:23:38] a little bit differently.

[00:23:39] So anyhow,

[00:23:40] Tara Wiskow: I

[00:23:40] Andrea Elibero: I love it. Yeah.

[00:23:41] Tara Wiskow: I I love that you share that because it really shows how important it is to

[00:23:46] Andrea Elibero: Mm

[00:23:47] Tara Wiskow: of these emotions and how they're

[00:23:49] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:23:50] Tara Wiskow: strong they are. I mean, you're, you're alluding to the fact that it's across the board in

[00:23:54] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:23:55] Tara Wiskow: in so

[00:23:56] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:23:56] Tara Wiskow: professions and,

[00:23:58] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:23:59] Tara Wiskow: therapy [00:24:00] ways.

[00:24:00] Right.

[00:24:00] Andrea Elibero: Yeah, and this is research based, so like, like, there's research behind this. So when you study it from, or when you do it from an NLP perspective,

[00:24:09] Tara Wiskow: Yep.

[00:24:10] Andrea Elibero: it's aligning with the research of a clinical psychology,

[00:24:14] Tara Wiskow: Yes,

[00:24:15] Andrea Elibero: so it's real, like there's research behind it, and so I, no, I just really, I love that, so

[00:24:20] Tara Wiskow: Yes,

[00:24:21] Andrea Elibero: on, go on, go on.

[00:24:21] Mm hmm. Mm

[00:24:23] Tara Wiskow: have us drop in and it's

[00:24:25] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:24:26] Tara Wiskow: drop into it, meaning you just close your eyes and then we try it on. So with my women, I'm always like, Hey, can you try this? This limiting belief on for me? And what I mean by that is you just close your eyes and then you just say out loud whatever the limiting belief is.

[00:24:39] So I'm just gonna think of one that's like kind of been surfacing for me. Okay. So success comes with pain. Now right away.

[00:24:50] I see. And this is how I work. We're all different. I have a seven coming this way. I see the seven and I hear the seven.

[00:24:58] This is our unconscious [00:25:00] mind, our subconscious mind one, and they're both the same.

[00:25:03] It is telling us. Now, if you were to say to me, well, I don't know, I'll say, well, I know that you don't know, but if you were to know, and what happens is your unconscious mind is like, oh, hello, I'm here. I can tell you like, I wanna help you because I'm sick of this. Right? Like, I wanna be unstuck. And so it'll, it comes forward and tells you, and this is our internal representational system of vax, which is your visual scene, auditory.

[00:25:27] Hearing kinesthetic, which is how you feel it, right? How, whether you feel it. Now, some people will feel the emotion and I'll feel it, but I'm more visual and auditory.

[00:25:39] Andrea Elibero: Oh, interesting. Yeah. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Mm hmm. Mm

[00:25:43] Tara Wiskow: charge. So a seven is high, 10 is the highest. However, I will have women in tears saying, can I say 15?

[00:25:53] Absolutely you can. It's off the charts. Very, very much controlling you. So for me it was a seven.

[00:25:59] Now [00:26:00] we know the energetic charge. The very next step

[00:26:03] we have to use your timeline. Your timeline allows us to travel into the past and travel into the future. The beauty of our timeline is it is unique to each of us.

[00:26:13] It might go left to right. Front to back. It might go diagonal, it might shoot right up and down. And most important is, has to be straight. I have had women with crooked timelines, which we've had to do the practice of straightening it out. 'cause you can't travel a timeline. That's crooked.

[00:26:29] And so now that we've got the energetic charge. I'm going to now get the root moment when you decided this to belief to be true for you. So with their eyes closed, we actually, I guide them and I speak using my exact script, and I ask them, when did you believe this to be true for you? With, with the words before, during, or after your birth? unconscious mind tells you, and if they say before, I'm gonna say in [00:27:00] the womb, or before now.

[00:27:01] If it's in the womb, well, how many months in the womb? So that'll tell me, okay, at three months in the womb, I decided this belief to be true for me. If they say past life, well, how many path, um, lifetimes ago. Or generationally how many generations ago, they say during self-explanatory, it was during their birth that they decided this to belief to be true. And it is, it has happened a number of times. Beliefs like, I'm not worthy of love.

[00:27:30] love is too painful. Things like that during that birth that they experienced through their mom or their dad came through and they

[00:27:38] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:27:38] Tara Wiskow: true for them.

[00:27:39] Andrea Elibero: That's what I was going to ask. When it's actually during the birth, this is because something was happening with, with the mom or the dad in the actual process of being birthed.

[00:27:48] Tara Wiskow: Yes, and,

[00:27:49] Andrea Elibero: Okay.

[00:27:49] Tara Wiskow: example I can think of is a woman that mom, mom had. Got become pregnant during, while they're married. Um, her mom and dad were married. They actually [00:28:00] separated during her, her pregnancy

[00:28:03] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:28:04] Tara Wiskow: birth. She was the, the mom was alone birthing my client,

[00:28:09] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm. Mm

[00:28:12] Tara Wiskow: I can't remember exactly how many beliefs that, but there were a whole slew of beliefs that were very, very negative.

[00:28:17] Controlling her ability to talk, to be able to feel confident, to feel loved, all stemmed from

[00:28:25] Andrea Elibero: hmm.

[00:28:25] Tara Wiskow: her birth. I.

[00:28:26] Andrea Elibero: Okay. Mm

[00:28:29] Tara Wiskow: of zero to seven years old, never, ever after that timeframe. It is vital that we get to the very first event. If we don't, then we're only erasing and releasing from that age to this current age, and that means the belief still resides in with you for a little window of time.

[00:28:49] So now. We're going to start adding back to that file folder, so we have to get to the very root moment for you that you decided that to be true for you. [00:29:00] Once we've gotten and established that we now float up above your timeline and we go into that exact moment where you said, if it was in the womb at three months, we're gonna drop down in there and connect to that emotion to actually feel it. see if you feel that decision there too, where you decided that to be true for you. Once I see my client, I can visually see that they've connected to it through their body language, the changing of the

[00:29:25] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:29:27] Tara Wiskow: um, whether they pale or they get, um, they blush, things like that.

[00:29:32] I have 'em go up and then I have 'em go way, way to the past far before that event ever, ever occurred. And the purpose is, is. We're going before it even existed within them. And once we're there, we check. And 97% of the time the emotion is, is released on that very first travel to the past. If it's not, we go further back and then a hundred percent of the time it's released. Then we travel back to now, [00:30:00] and in that traveling we're releasing, and oftentimes you'll feel like Nerf gun pelts, like these beliefs coming to you and pelting you, and you're like releasing them, getting rid of them, and they're, they're vanishing, vanishing into La La Wonderland. And then you come back to now. We try that belief on

[00:30:17] and boom, it's gone.

[00:30:18] Andrea Elibero: So the, the thing that is, to me, that I've taken from this, that is really important from what I understand,

[00:30:26] Tara Wiskow: Mm-hmm.

[00:30:27] Andrea Elibero: it's not, when we have these limiting beliefs and these thoughts, it's not just our mind, right? It's not just, oh, we have to tell ourselves a new thought and then it's going to magically, will magically feel better.

[00:30:37] Because I'm sure we've all done this, right? Like, oh no, I'm smart enough, but you can feel the feeling when you don't believe yourself. So you have to tap into the emotion of it and, and it's connected. The thought and the emotion are connected. So when you can release this emotion, then the thought naturally changes.

[00:30:57] Right? Like there's such a connection between them and that's how, [00:31:00] that's how you make real long lasting change and have the growth. In my opinion, anyways. I don't know if you agree with that. Yeah. Hmm. Hmm. Yeah.

[00:31:16] Tara Wiskow: you can only fake that for so long before you continue to feel. I. Like you're being inauthentic, and when you're not being authentic and telling yourself the truth, you're lying to yourself and you're living behind a false identity that doesn't belong to you. How do you build a business that feels right to you where you're speaking your truth? If you're constantly lying to yourself and telling yourself that you are worthy of love or you are worthy of success, when deep down. You feel like an imposter syndrome

[00:31:47] all day long because you're telling other women to do what you can't do.

[00:31:51] So when we drop in and we release it, it doesn't exist anymore. It's no longer within you. So for instance, I'll, uh, we [00:32:00] future pace it. I then have my women go into the future.

[00:32:03] asked them to see if they could experience this again, like go out into the future

[00:32:09] where it'd be most appropriate,

[00:32:11] and see what happens when you experience this and you might not experience anything at all. And they're out there and they'll have, their unconscious mind is bringing 'em into their future. They're living in their future. They're like, nothing's happening. I'm very calm. I feel peaceful. I'm not upset about this. It's not true. Sometimes they'll laugh. They'll start laughing and they're like, well, this is so funny.

[00:32:31] Why did I believe this anyway?

[00:32:33] Or they'll come back and say, I'll say, well, what do you think about that old belief now? And they'll stop and they'll think, and they'll say. I don't remember the belief. What was it? They don't. They don't. And so then I'll, I'll repeat it. They're like, oh, that's not true. And they just find it so ironic that they even thought that it was true. and then once we try it on, then there's no energy. Sometimes they might go from like a seven to a two, and that means there's [00:33:00] another limiting belief that's just holding that one slightly. But a two is so little that it doesn't, it doesn't stall you out any longer.

[00:33:09] Andrea Elibero: What would you say to somebody who's like, okay,

[00:33:11] I really want to do this. I really want to work with you, but today, what can I do? What's something I can do today, right now, like at home? When I'm having these thoughts, like on my own. Mm hmm. Mm

[00:33:22] Tara Wiskow: in She Rises is one of my six month program, and this is what I'm having women do is before we release it, and I know this sounds mean, but before we actually do the release work, I am having them practice the process of reframing it. And in fact, it's actually this next week that I'm hopping into.

[00:33:43] So this is perfect. It's actually the observe and reframe method. So this is, I'm just throwing this out. It's part of my program. It's a little freebie that I'm giving to all of your listeners. The very, the, there's three steps. Very first is observe that emotion. That is coming up. [00:34:00] 'cause that emotion's gonna then tie it to a thought or a belief.

[00:34:03] So maybe, maybe it's anxiety, right? And right away you have anxiety. And then what thoughts are coming forward in that? Be aware of that. An anxiety. Write down those thoughts. Now we wanna reframe it. We actually want to write down that thought and let's just cross it out and let's call it a lie. And then let's, let's write the truth because every lie has a truth. And so if I were to say, always rules my life, this is a belief that I believe to be true, right? I

[00:34:35] Andrea Elibero: Mm

[00:34:36] Tara Wiskow: however, somebody might. And we could write that down. And if we wrote that down, anxiety always rules my life. How could we reframe that? Well, rather than being the anxiety, let's instead observe switch it.

[00:34:53] So this puts us in control to say, I'm noticing that I feel anxious in the moment.[00:35:00] 

[00:35:00] However, I know that I'm in full control of my emotions around anxiety or just simply observing it, saying, I notice that I'm feeling anxious, and that helps you to just kind of move back from it and not be ruled by the

[00:35:17] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:35:18] Tara Wiskow: And then the third step is, so first of all, you're going to observe, and then you're going to reframe and then respond to it.

[00:35:26] actually utilizing it every single day in these, these thoughts that come up. So reframe it and then, then re rewrite it, basically?

[00:35:36] Andrea Elibero: Mm. I love that. Thank you for sharing that, uh, freebie with everybody.

[00:35:40] So, okay,

[00:35:41] Tara Wiskow: brutally shared, but it

[00:35:46] Andrea Elibero: I followed. It made sense to me.

[00:35:48] Tara Wiskow: Okay.

[00:35:49] Andrea Elibero: Okay, so, for all of these wonderful people who are listening and who now are like, okay, I want to, I'm, I'm trying to [00:36:00] grow my business. Oh, you're giving me some ideas like, oh, maybe, you know, I want to step into this thing. I know we've talked so much about this. Is there any sort of last tip or like biggest thing that for this specific audience that you're like, okay, this could really help you.

[00:36:15] And I want to share this with you.

[00:36:17] Tara Wiskow: Yeah.

[00:36:18] So for all the business owners that are

[00:36:21] where they're at, a last tip, I'm just dropping in and asking like what would be important for them to know on this? I think my, my last tip not, I think I know that my last tip would be for everybody based on what we've talked about is awareness. Becoming aware

[00:36:42] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:36:47] Tara Wiskow: are actually, or limiting beliefs the, the culprit of what's getting in your way and it's causing you to lose confidence in your ability to do what you were created to do.[00:37:00] 

[00:37:00] Become aware of it because when you're aware that that. That's the culprit. You now disengage from the belief that it's not meant for you, that you can't do it, that it's not possible. And when you become aware of it, you now can begin to take the steps to help you to move past it, to know what you need.

[00:37:20] And again, it's reframing it. Becoming fully aware of this is a thought that constantly pulls me out of my game. This takes my mojo away. When this happens, I do this. What are the patterns when you break that all down?

[00:37:37] all now have a database of information that can help you fully understand you. This is your blueprint. This is your self-sabotaging blueprint. Label it that as well because now you're aware of it. And once you have that, we can now flip the script to say, to get from here. To where I want to be. I know that [00:38:00] these are the steps that I need to take to get past this to that. And of course it needs to be bite-sized steps.

[00:38:06] So if you've got a belief or a pattern that's happening that's pulling you out, what's one thing that you can do that can help you root yourself back into it and help you to feel confident moving forward? It has to be a small step. It has to be an easy step because if it's too large, that just adds to that, that anxiety and uneasiness that's coming forward for you to begin with.

[00:38:33] Andrea Elibero: Perfect. Yes. And I am sitting here just like nodding, nodding. So I'm like, yes, yes. Because I think that what I see so much of is, is exactly that, like everybody's sort of living their lives, not everybody, a lot of people are living their lives unconsciously and not even aware that what's happening, why it's happening and what they can do about it.

[00:38:52] So

[00:38:53] I'm like, yes, the first step. The first step 100 percent is this awareness and just being there. Just [00:39:00] observing, you know, and questioning, and

[00:39:02] having things be a little bit less automatic. Because that's what happens, right? Like, at a certain age, I think I, I think I read in, um,

[00:39:10] Joe Dispenza's book, I'm reading that now, the, I don't know what it's called, the, when you're unbecoming yourself, I don't remember, you know what I'm talking about, the,

[00:39:18] Tara Wiskow: He has

[00:39:19] Andrea Elibero: breaking the habit of becoming yourself, something like this,

[00:39:21] Tara Wiskow: Yep.

[00:39:22] Andrea Elibero: and I think the statistic was like 90 some odd percent of your Thoughts are automatic by the time you're 35.

[00:39:29] 95 percent of your thoughts are automatic by the time you hit 35, which is insane.

[00:39:33] Tara Wiskow: Yes.

[00:39:34] Andrea Elibero: So, just the step of being conscious of your thoughts is so important. Right? And like you're saying, it's the start of everything else.

[00:39:44] Tara Wiskow: Yep.

[00:39:45] Andrea Elibero: now you know you can do about it. So I love that you shared that. So thank you so much.

[00:39:49] Yeah.

[00:39:49] Tara Wiskow: of it, then it

[00:39:50] Andrea Elibero: Mm hmm.

[00:39:51] Tara Wiskow: to pull yourself into that 5% where you're conscious. This is where you're aware, and that's when you can start approaching it in a different way. But you [00:40:00] have to take it out of the unconscious, and the only way you get out of the unconscious is be by becoming aware of it,

[00:40:06] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:40:06] Tara Wiskow: allowing yourself to take those steps to

[00:40:09] Andrea Elibero: Yeah.

[00:40:09] Tara Wiskow: through it.

[00:40:10] Andrea Elibero: Yeah. And it reminds me of, you know when you're like,

[00:40:13] when you have a medical, before you have a medical diagnosis, like, oh, I have these symptoms,

[00:40:18] but you have no idea what to do because you don't know what they mean. But then when you have the diagnosis, you're like, okay, now I know I have to do XYZ and now I can fix this illness that I have.

[00:40:29] So that's what the analogy reminds me of.

[00:40:31] Tara Wiskow: that's a great analogy. That's a great way to look at it. Yes.

[00:40:34] Andrea Elibero: Awesome, thank you so much. So I, before we go, I would love to hear how can we stay in touch with you? And then if you have any freebies, any gifts, opt ins, like that, that you can share. This is the stage, your stage is yours. I stumbled on that.

[00:40:48] Tara Wiskow: Thank you. It's okay. We fit well together. That's how I feel. I'm like, um.

[00:40:53] Andrea Elibero: I was like, wait, I did not say that correctly at all. You know what I meant.

[00:40:57] Tara Wiskow: sound great to me. It landed perfect for me. [00:41:00] So how can we stay connected? Definitely on Instagram at Tara dot Wisco. Um, if you go to just Tara Wisco on Instagram, it's my old account, that poor Instagram. Um. Algorithm is very confused. She has no idea who the hell she is. So please come to at tara tot wisco if you're on Facebook, Tara Wisco.

[00:41:21] All of my profile pictures are the same. To keep it easy. I'm also on TikTok. You can find me there or my website, which is www.tarawisco.com. My website is not fully up to date because I am becoming, this is one way that I have not put the carriage before the horse. I'm allowing myself to fully become, rather than asking Chay, BT what my website should say I am becoming so that my words can fully be displayed on, on my website.

[00:41:53] So, but you'll get the gist of who I am in all of my offerings as well will be there.

[00:41:58] A freebie that I have that [00:42:00] I am so in love with and has really been shifting a lot of. Mo Momentum for Women is what I wanted to say. Um, is my four-part video series, and this is four steps to Four Energy shifts to becoming your most confident Self to attract the life you want.

[00:42:22] And I guide you through the four specific energy shifts that you need in order to step fully into your confidence. And one of the big parts is aligned at. Action. So a big piece of it is becoming your authentic self and one, one specific. Feed piece of feedback that I'll share is a woman that went through, she watched the first part of it, and Ian, there's two different meditations and a visualization that I take you through in this freebie. She went through the visualization and, and then the meditation, and she said. I've had a pain in my neck, shoulder area for [00:43:00] years, and she said once I went through that, at the very end I felt that release and I've not had that pain. It's not there. She was able to uncover where it came from, why it was there, and she's been, she parted ways from it and

[00:43:15] Andrea Elibero: Wow.

[00:43:15] Tara Wiskow: experiencing that pain that's been holding her back in a lot of ways that she wasn't aware of. So that's a freebie that I encourage everybody to hop into and. Do some energy shifting. When you do that, you will find that you start showing up so much differently in your business space, but also your life as a whole, and

[00:43:34] Andrea Elibero: Yeah. so much. Oh

[00:43:36] Tara Wiskow: shift for you.

[00:43:37] Andrea Elibero: my god, amazing. I can't wait to go download that. Thank you so much for sharing all of that and thank you for being here and sharing all of your magic and your wisdom with all of us today.

[00:43:45] Tara Wiskow: Thank you so much, and I will share the link specific

[00:43:48] Andrea Elibero: Yeah, they'll be in the, uh, okay, yeah, sure, sure. Yep, everything will be in the show notes.

[00:43:53] Tara Wiskow: Perfect. Then they can just click it and go right there. So it'll be easy peasy lemon squeezy. Thank you so much for today, Andrea. It was great [00:44:00] to connect with you. I appreciate you allowing me to be here. 

[00:44:03] Andrea Elibero: Thank you so much for joining us today. I really hope you found inspiration and insights from today's episode. You know, scaling your business intentionally and from the inside out is a transformational process, but I'm here to support you every step of the way. Head on over to dancing leaf solutions.com/resources for free tools to help you do just that.

[00:44:28] And thank you again for being a part of the Solepreneur Scaling Stories community. Your presence and dedication to growth inspiring me every day.